• Posted By Crazy Single Mom @ 11:32 PM • • •
Tuesday, March 01, 2005
Reflections on the "village" that helps raise my child
As all of you know, I'm a single mom. This was not by choice, I'm not strong enough to have deliberately made that choice. But I got pregnant, the man wasn't around, and the only alternative that was open to me considering the late date to which I found out I was pregnant was to put my baby up for adoption. I'm adopted, so that wasn't something I thought would harm her, but when I heard that heartbeat and saw her in the ultrasound, really what choice did I have, I fell in love with her right then and there. There are days that seem so hard, making all the decisions on something so important as a child's life without someone to sound things off on, well it can be overwhelming at times. Then it hits me....I'm not alone. I may not have a husband, but the friends I have around me, well I can never truly express how I feel about them and what they mean to me. They've all become my family, and as a family we love each other immensely, warts and all. I have Princess to thank for this. I KNOW I wouldn't be so successful a mother if it wasn't for them. So, even though they don't read this blog (except for roomie) I wanted you all to know why they mean so much to me, and to thank them for all they have done. (Obviously names have been changed)
- Diva and Spice: The roomies I had when I found out I was pregnant at 7 months. They are NOT "Kid" people, never have been never claimed to be. But they supported me when I couldn't support myself, and they grew to love Princess in a very special way. They may not be "mommy" nurturers, heck a lot of my other friends wouldn't call them nurturers at all, but the bond we have is beyond that.
- Kate and Little Man: She is as close as a little sister. Including aggravating me at times like a little sister does, and I am SURE I have aggravated her beyond belief. Little Man is her son, and he is as close to Princess as a little brother, and idolizes her, as she is crazy about him.
- Kate's mom and step dad, Her mom is an earth mother to be sure, and has taken Princess and me into her heart and into her home when we have needed it. She and her husband watch Princess on some Saturdays, and Princess always looks forward to her "adventures" with the husband. They have a bond that is beautiful to see, and I know I can count on him to give her "fatherly" advice even though he isn't her father nor a husband to me.
- Roomie's mom and step dad, her mother tends to fall into the friend to me/auntie to Princess/grandmother figure all in one person. Her emotions sometimes get the better of her, but she has gone through a lot, and still finds love in her heart for Princess and me. Her husband is a man with a truly witty personality, and he too loves Princess. Both of them have helped me out more times than I can count, and would do so again anytime.
- Roomie, best friend, roommate, sometime mother figure to Princess when I'm not there, funny as all hell, and puts up with me and my moods. She is the day to day support, the one that steps in whenever she is needed. She loves Princess with all her heart, and Princess loves her deeply. No wonder people tend to think of us as a couple LOL! I tend to forget how much younger she is than me, because she has a maturity far beyond her years. If someday we cease to be roommates, I know we will never cease to be friends. And I know she will always love Princess. Ok I'll stop now, because I can guarantee that when she reads this she's gonna be embarrassed.
These people make raising my child so much easier. So yes, I have no husband, yes I feel like I work way too many hours, but with them in my life, I know that Princess doesn't lack for much. There have been countless others who have come in and out of our lives when they were needed, I don't know what I ever did to deserve all of them, but I am damn glad they are here. Who do you have in your life that supports you? Think about them and give them a nod, a thanks, whatever you can.
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