• Posted By Crazy Single Mom @ 9:13 PM • • •
Thursday, December 30, 2004
Never a dull moment
Those of you who read Oliquig's blog know, we are having not one, but two parties this weekend. I think we must be nuts, but hey it'll be fun! The good thing is that the people who are coming are those that like to see US, not how clean the place is. Don't get me wrong, our place is far from slobbish, but these past few weeks have been hectic on both of us, so perhaps the place isn't as picked up as it should be. Now if this was my mother coming over, I would SO be in a tizzy, that woman can still make me nervous even at my age! I love her though. What makes it harder for me to do anything is the fact that I have a cold, and I threw my back out. So I cough, then wince at the pain in my back. I also work all day on my feet, so you get the idea that perhaps this is not the best time to do strenuous cleaning. Oliquig, ever the best roommate, will again have to do more of the pick-up than I, she did that too for Christmas, and now for this. I will make it up to her some other time, she knows this. We work very well as roommates, and Princess is just crazy about her. Princess has been sick for weeks now, FINALLY she was put on antibiotics and it's like night and day she feel so much better now!! She would cough so hard she almost threw up a few times, and the other day she coughed so hard she had an accident in her pants. We all know that when you cough that hard accidents can happen even to us grownups, but to a little girl who is so proud she is 4 and a "big girl now" it was devastating. Lots of hugs and kisses were given with the words "Honey don't worry, that's why they call them accidents because they aren't on purposes, I love you with all my heart". I wanted to hold her close and never let her go I felt so bad for her. It's nice to see her get back to normal. Another good note...The piece of crap car is STILL running yay!!!!! It looks like I'll make it to the end of January woo hoo!!! I hope everyone's New Year is good, the next year looms close, I can't WAIT to see what's in store!!!
Tuesday, December 28, 2004
More Princess-isms
Our conversation tonight after she was already tucked in to bed:
(Yelled from her bedroom) "Mama! I have to go potty!"
Me: "OK, then go sweety."
A few minutes go by, then a whole lot of minutes
Finally I say: "Are you still on the potty?"
Her: "Yes!"
Me: "Aren't you done yet?"
Her: "No, there's just one more poopy has to come out mom!"
Me: "Ok! Call me when your done"
Her finally done: "OK mom I done! What that smell?"
Me: "your poopies honey, they tend to smell."
Her: "My poopies not smell, you poopies smell...teehee!"
Interesting conversations one has with little ones :-)
Princess-isms
Said to me when I asked Princess if she was done pooping: "Uh Mom, hello! There's more poopies!"
When I went to open the door for the cats one day when she was playing make believe: "Careful Mom, don't step on the dog!" We don't have one.
Said to me today when I asked her if she wanted McDonalds or Friendly's after the Dr's appointment: " Mama, I told you already I not like Friendly's, I want McDonalds, you member??"
Said to a new employee at my work one day when she came in: "Who are you, what you doing at my mommy's work?"
When I told her not to open a new cd in the car just look at it and then she opened it: "Mama I not open it, you open it already!" Yeah right :-)
Said every day since her Birthday on the 26th: "I 4! Mama I 4 now, I a big girl! I 4, mama." and for good measure in case I didn't remember: "Mama I 4 now!"
Said almost every time I have to punish her: "
And said every night as I kiss her goodnight: " Night night Mommy, don't let those bug beds bite you, I love you!"
I love each and every one of those things, because they are so Princess!
Monday, December 27, 2004
4 Years Ago Yesterday
This story actually starts 4 years ago yesterday....And 8 weeks. 8 weeks before I was to give birth is actually when I found out I was pregnant. For those who want more info on that part....Go here . I was on bed rest, which was miserable, my blood pressure was high, which was miserable and dangerous. All I wanted was to have my daughter NOW! I started contractions on Christmas Eve, which I tried to hide from everyone as I was at a Christmas Party that night and didn't want to alarm everyone. One of my good friends noticed me grimacing.....And the cat was out of the bag! Up to that time I was under the delusion that I would have a natural childbirth, however, after the minor contractions I was having, I truly decided no way! Long story short, I didn't have her Christmas Eve, nor did I have her Christmas day. I was scheduled to have her the day after, as they didn't want me to go past my due date (the high blood pressure thing). On Christmas day, my parents were going to go up to my brothers house, which is in the same state as I am. They did that so they could be here for the birth of their granddaughter. I was living with two other roomies at the time, thank god, it would have been horrible to be alone then (no the father never came to see me, and to this day has not seen his daughter.... His loss!). I called mom and dad at my brothers house when they got there, crying that they didn't love me because if they had they would have stopped at MY house first...Ok ok I was just a wee bit emotional :-) They rushed down to see me after that, which also made me miserable as I was so uncomfortable that just talking was hard work! The next day I went to have her, and there was a fire alarm going off in the hospital! Only me! It turned out to be nothing, just smoke in the basement, but I wasn't able to go up to my room for about 2 hours. Not good, as I had to pee at least every 5 minutes! Finally I went up, and got some good news. I was already well on my way to having her so I didn't need pitocin, which I hear makes labor even worse! I won't lie to you folks...It was horrible! I have never felt such pain in my life....Then....Relief! I got an epidural, to all those ladies yet to have babies, remember that word! Life was good after that! Until it came to pushing, which hurt like HELL as they have to let the epidural wear off so you can push! 3 hours of pushing later, I finally had a baby girl, at 11:32 at night. A miracle happened. All that pain, all that misery, all the bad feelings, it didn't matter any more. It all just vanished in my mind, I had a little GIRL!!! And she was perfect!!!! Not a thing mattered at that moment other than that. I don't think I stopped smiling at all. I had wanted to be a mother forever, and finally I was. It didn't seem real. Yes, even the pain didn't seem real. For all those mothers out there, always remember that feeling when you first have them, it makes the day to day stress seem less so. And to all you women trying to be mom's, never give up, it is worth everything!!!! Happy Birthday my baby, I love you. I can't wait to see what the next 4 years have in store for us!
Sunday, December 26, 2004
Pics and more pics!
Below are some pics of Christmas at home, there are so many more, but I didn't want to bore you :-)
A pic Princess took of me while on the ferry going to grammy and grampy's house, seriously the kid takes the best pics of me!
A pic Princess insisted I take of her on the ferry.
Grampy and Princess...both with cheesy smiles!
the hilight gift, other than the spiderman clothes which she is wearing.
Oh love of M&M radio!
Mom and Dad looking at the scrapbook I made them, they loved it woohoo!
Merry Dysfunctional Christmas
I hope everyone's holidays were spectacular, or if not, at least not horrible! Thanks to the best roomie a gal could want, I was able to go home to Long Island for Christmas, as she lent me her car. As you all know, mine is a piece of crap and I'm dang lucky that it's still running.
So I get home to my folks house, and I see my brother looking out the front window at us pulling in. The front door is very close to where I park. I load my arms full of goodies, and head toward the door, which I find out is locked! I mean, he sees me getting out of the car, don't you think he would open the door?? I knock, he opens it, I say why didn't you just open the door? He says I thought you would go round to the back door. Uh huh. The back door which is WAY far away from my car with my arms full of heavy things and my daughter impatiently waiting for Grammy and Grampy. OK to be fair, my brother is schizophrenic, albeit a highly functional one. For those of you who don't know what that is, go here to find out more about it. He wasn't doing as well as he has been the past few Christmas's, so let's excuse him for the oversite. Mom and Dad has invited a young couple over for dinner. They're Chinese, and mom is teaching Yani (the wife) how to speak english better. Her husband Wei is in school getting his doctorate in computer sciences. VERY nice people, and this is their first American Christmas, so it was fun for them. I did cringe a bit during mom's conversations with them, she kept on saying things like "the oriental culture is interesting, do you know what a turkey is?" Now China may not be high on turkey, but I'm pretty sure they can figure out that a turkey is a bird of some sort! Let's not even go into the "oriental" thing, this has irked me for some time, as I am half Korean, you think they would know better. We are not rugs...We are Asian!!!! I could see their faces when she would say this, I think Yani wanted to laugh and I'm pretty sure Wei was just a bit insulted but too polite to say anything.
Did I mention Mom's obsession with food? She thinks everyone should have just a little bit, not a lot, as having too much is just terrible. Yeah....when you have company over, go ahead and control the food, good idea! Yani was obviously hungry and took a lot of turkey on her plate, which mom made a comment on, and she looked at mom embarrassed and asked if she had taken too much. Before mom could say anything more, I said "not at all, there's plenty of turkey, let me carve some more!" Which I did, as I am a big gal here, and one slice would not have done it for me either! I envy Yani, skinny as a rail and able to put food down with the best of them! Imagine growing up in a household where food was a control issue, here is what happens. I have a weight problem, as my personality is to covet that which I am denied. My middle brother... well let's just say you take your life in your hands if you even TOUCH his plate, it's like he's hoarding it, even to this day. My oldest brother is indifferent, as his personality tends to ignore that which he can't have, and my brother who is mentally ill still looks to mom to tell him how much to eat. By the way, schizophrenics aren't stupid or mentally deficient, they actually tend to be very smart, so it's not his illness that makes him look to mom for his food cue, it's her controlling ways. We had the obligatory tears, as things did not go as planned to Mom, so of course she had to make it a bigger deal that it was. Another control thing, her emotions.
On the happy side, Princess was so thrilled to be with Grammy and Grampy, and we sat around and sang Christmas carols on Christmas eve. We put out cookies for Santa which mom had made, and then Princess went to bed without a fuss so as to be ready for Santa. The next morning, she woke up bright and early, asking if Santa had come, then when we went downstairs, you should have seen her face! "Santa was here, he came!" she said so happily. Then we went to visit a friend of mine for the afternoon, had a wonderful time their. She has three kids so Princess was happy! Then we came back and had a wonderful dinner. Minus the mom things! This morning she was ready to come home, she was missing Oliquig. Today is Princess's birthday, she is 4 years old today, and we're going to go out to Applebee's for dinner. That was Princess's request. Her official birthday party will be in a few weeks, but you can't just do nothing on her official birthday :-) I am off to frost a cake, and then out to dinner with Princess, Oliquig's family and other friends of ours. Poor Oliquig is tired, she did EVERYTHING yesterday as she had her family over, so she will not be joining us. Have a good night everyone :-)
Thursday, December 23, 2004
still going so far!
Thankyou, all of you, for your good thoughts about my car and me, it must be working because I am still driving it! I should have gotten rid of it last year, but I wanted to wait until I was a bit more solid financially, someone should have told me last year that never really happens when you have a child.
There's another reason I didn't get rid of it last year, because of what that car represents. I was married twice, once to a total nightmare of a man, the second time to a man that I was never really sure how he felt about anything, let alone have feelings at all. We sure weren't good financially, as much as I struggle now, I still have more alone than I had married. He wasn't good with money. We had one car, and had to work out a way to get us both to work. When I realised that the marriage was over even though we were still under one roof, I went out and looked for a car. I bought the one I have now. It was the first car I had bought independant of a husband since I was a teenager, and it felt good!
So that car means a lot to me, and it may be a piece of crap now, but it owes me nothing, it has been a good car. It just needs to hold it together one more month, and with all your good thoughts and it being the car it is, I think it'll make it!
It's late, imagine me getting all sentimental over a car, I have to be tired! Just gave Princess more medicine, she has an upper respiratory viral infection. And...I FINISHED MOM AND DAD'S SCRAPBOOK WOO HOO!! Now I can sleep good night :-)
Monday, December 20, 2004
Just when you think life is wonderful.....
I have a piece of crap car, I've been nursing it along for some time now. I wanted it to last through this year, then I figured that during the presidents day sales I would get a car. I haven't had working heat in it for awhile, it gets warm sometimes, then other times it doesn't. I also have the incredible floating thermostat, one minute it looks like its overheating, the next it's fine. Now, put that together, along with other problems I've been having, head gasket. Which costs around 800 with parts and labor to fix. Guess who doesn't have 800 dollars?? Nor do I want to put the money into my piece of crap car. So where I stand now is this: I'm playing russian roulette with my car right now. If I keep coolant in the car and keep topping it off, it may keep going for a while longer. I just need to get through the holidays, then I can focus on the car. So, if anyone is listening out there, I could really use your prayers, pray that my car makes it through for a month. If it doesn't I am so SOL.Pray hard, and pray loud, and if any of you have an "in" with the saint of cars, pray even louder.
Saturday, December 18, 2004
Busy busy busy!
My clients love me. How do I know this? Because they send me gift certificates to here for Christmas! I love them too, without them I would not be able to support myself and Princess. We may not live in the lap of luxury, but we are comfortable, and we can get little extra things now and then. I never set out in life to be rich, I just wanted to be happy and comfortable, and I have that. And the gift certificates and the extra tips around Christmas sure do help :-) I've been so very busy at work, which is a good thing as this month has been unusual because normally we are busy the whole month, not this time! I had big gaps in my schedule every day except Friday and Saturday. NOT fun when you usually expect to be so busy you can't breathe! I think that this state, being a "blue" state, doesn't have the confidence to do extra things this year, sales are down in retail too. OK that's as political as I'll ever get, so move on :-)
Back to my clients, I love the fact that I have done so many of them for a long time that they're friends as well. I love to hear about their lives and listen to their successes, and commiserate with them when things don't go well. I love seeing them get married, have children, and give their kids their first haircuts. I like what I do. How many people can say that? Have a great weekend everyone!
Wednesday, December 15, 2004
For Bad Penguin
Three names you go by: Crazy Single Mom, Nina, Mommy
Three screen names you have: Crazy Single Mom, oops I only have one besides my own name.
Three things you like about yourself: I'm creative, I'm a good friend, I'm a good mom.
Three things you hate/dislike about yourself: I'm impatient, bad with money, and can get moody.
Three parts of your heritage: Korean, and since I'm adopted, the other half of me can be whatever you want it to be since I don't know. Birth father was described as "6 foot, brown haired, brown eyed American".
Three things that scare you: Something happening to Princess, Bush's vision of America, Jehovah's Witnesses knocking on my door.
Three of your every day essentials: Princess cuddles, coffee, hairspray, lots of all three!
Three things you are wearing right now: pajama bottoms, pajama top, my glasses.
Three of your favorite bands/artists (at the moment): U2, Bare Naked Ladies, Frank Sinatra, hard to limit to just three as my tastes are rather ecclectic!
Three of your favorite songs at present: Bohemian Rhapsodie (Queen), With or Without You (U2), New York, New York (Frankie's version).
Three things you want in a relationship (love is a given): Friendship, laughter, security.
Three things you want to try in the next 12 months: Get back into acting, join a choir, learn to quilt.
Two truths and a lie: I was adopted, I've been married twice, I was born in this country.
Three physical things about the opposite (or same) sex that appeals to you: Smile, shoulders, hands, (OK, and package hehehehe).
Three things you just can't do: Juggle, sculpt, play a musical instrument.
Three of your favorite hobbies: Knitting, scrapbooking, blogging, so many more but you only asked for three!
Three things you want to do really badly right now: Lose weight, buy a new car, go somewhere tropical on vacation.
Three careers you are considering: I like what I do, but I would like to become a U.S. certified colorist, then a World certified colorist, then take over the world MUWAHAHAHA!! Oops sorry :-)
Three places you want to go on vacation: Australia, Hawaii, Korea.
Three kids names: Noelle, Connor, Christopher.
Three things you want to do before you die: Travel the world, get political, Sing on a broadway stage.
Three people you would like to take this quiz now: empty nest, Lauren, Supine.
Thanks Bad Penguin for asking me this was fun :-)
Tuesday, December 14, 2004
Holiday Light Fantasia
Tonight we went to see a light display put on by the city of Hartford. It's a tradition, we go every year. Even though Princess is only 3 almost 4, she remembers the lights last year, especially Clifford! This is a huge display sponsored by local civic groups and businesses, they even have a radio station you can tune into to listen to sounds of the season for your car ride. Oliquig, Princess, and I went with a friend of ours, who brought her three chihuahua's. Normally, I am NOT a fan of little dogs, and especially yappie little dogs like chihuahua's, but hers are really cute and nice! Below are som pics of the lights, hope you enjoy them as much as we did!
Princess in the car, SO ready to see the lights!
I guess this one says it all!
Princess screeched CLIFFORD!!! Unfortunately, she screeched it in Oliquigs ear!
For the Patriotic at heart. I love this one!
An Angel playing an instrument of some sort
They even had a Menorah
Princess thought this one was so pretty
A beautiful lights on water shot.
Mondays can be fun!
Yesterday was a good Monday. Actually, all mondays are good for me as I am off. On the other hand, Saturdays don't have the same appeal to me as other people as I have to work that day. However, back to monday! I spent the day with my neighbor and her son Little Man, you should see Princess and Little Man play! They run up and down the hall chasing each other, then when they see each other they scream and run laughing the other way. Normally you don't want your children to scream, but when they do it while playing it sounds so fun. Neighbors mom came over and took Little Man and Princess to neighbors grandmothers for a short time, but this was good as Oliquigs mom was also over and it gave us a chance to talk, without kids around, what a concept! It was fun having adult time! Not a whole heck of a lot was accomplished yesterday, but sometimes not having a million things to do is a nice break, especially during this time of year. Princess has a cold, and Little Man was not feeling all that well either, so just hanging out with their Moms was good for them! I made homemade turkey meatballs for dinner, and pasta and sauce (not homemade sauce, just doctored up jar type sauce). We all sat down and had a nice dinner, then neighbor took Little Man home as his fever spiked up high, he's feeling better today thank goodness. Princess was also tired as she had no nap and has a cold, so bedtime for her was early. Then, more fun! I sat down and worked on the scrapbook I'm putting together for Mom and Dad for Christmas, which I love to do. Bedtime for me was way late, as those of you I commented to on your blogs can attest, and yet still today I feel refreshed, because of such a nice day yesterday! To some of you this may not seem like a very exciting day, and perhaps it wasn't. But to me, it was one of the best days, just hanging out with friends and Princess, doing nothing :-)
Sunday, December 12, 2004
It's 12 AM....go to bed!
I woke up at 7:30 this morning, and have been on the go the rest of the day. Strung lights on the christmas tree (which by the way I am anal about, but you have to admit they look good), went and did some shopping, getting Princess a Hello Kitty lamp and a Spiderman toothbrush for her stocking, came back with lunch in hand for the elves, (Oliquig and Princess), finished decorating the tree and outside, cooked part of dinner, so why am I STILL up??? It could be that I am just over tired from work and the excitement today, perhaps I am coming down with something. Or, it could be that I am a dork and have been sitting here admiring the decorations hehehe.
After dinner, the neighbors came down to admire the decorations (they have none, not too sure why) then Princess had to go to bed, trust me she REALLY had to go to bed! Did I unwind then? No, Oliquig and I played Scene It, a game I got her for Christmas. It was hidden in my closet in my room which Princess proceeded to point out to her, which is why she has it now. Let me tell you, that's a fun game! Gotta go, I hear Princess coughing, something she has been doing for the last 10 minutes, another reason I am still up!
It seems that everywhere you turn, there are pics of decorations on all the blogs. AND....here's more. Today was the day that our house officially became a Christmas house, we had so much fun decorating and listening to christmas songs. Princess loved putting ormanents (her word) on the tree. For yet MORE pics of our house, both inside and in, go to Oliquigs blog ( www.oliquig.com ), she has still more :-)
Yet another shot of our mantle, I think this one would make a great Christmas card!
Our tree, I put the lights on, and Oliquig Princess and I put on the ornaments. Princess and Oliquig did the majority of the ornaments!
The same wreath in a normal shot.
An artsy pic of one of our wreaths, we have three up in the house....we LIKE wreaths :-)
Our mantle with our stocking hung by the chimney with care!
Princess and the cats enjoying some time while we get ready to trim the tree.
It's going to my head!!
I just found out I was nominated by Steve for best new blog....WOOHOO!!! OK so it's just one nomination, but how wonderful it makes me feel! Now....back to decorating the tree and the house, more pics of both to come from this web and Oliquigs :-)
And thanks again Steve :-)
Thursday, December 09, 2004
Random thoughts
Deck the halls with boughs of holly!
That's what I'll be doing this weekend, well ok maybe not bells, and definately not holly, too prickly, but you get the idea! Princess can't wait to get the tree, we'll get it friday, let it sit, hopefully string the lights on Saturday night, then decorate it on Sunday! See how my plan works? Only problem with plans, they never seem to go just as you want them to. So we'll see how it all worked out after the weekend :-)
I'm pretty close to done as far as christmas shopping goes, and some presents don't have to be bought until after christmas as I won't see everyone before. One more item I have to buy is a new dresser for Princess. Apparently, she's been using the drawers as a ladder to get to the top of the dresser, because we all know THAT'S what they're there for right?? When I asked her why she did it, she said "cause I have to get my beary bank". Which is like a piggy bank only it's a bear. Which is at the edge of the dresser, where she can reach without climbing.....huh??? Silly me, I'm trying to make SENSE of what a three year old says LOL
I got a great gift from one of my clients, a gift certificate to target woo hoo!!! This time of year my clients get very generous. I get gifts, wine, money and wonderful cards. I appreciate all of them, from the very small to the very big presents, it makes me realise how much I mean to them, and they certainly mean a lot to me.
Have a good night folks!
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
Christmas is coming.....
Oliquig got this cd, "Bare Naked for the Holidays", I love this cd. It has a fast paced renditon of jingle bells and in the middle they sing "Jingle bells batman smells robin laid an egg..." which cracks up Princess no end!! Then they also do "crosby stills nash and young, crosby stills nash and young!!" sung to deck the halls. The one that cracks me up the most is singing happy birthday to jesus!! Also on this cd are some beautiful renditions of all songs, both for chanukah and christmas. They really are extremely talented musicians, and it shows even when they're making fun of songs.
Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of year. I know, it's hectic, the stores are crowded, you run into way too many rude people (as we did in the Christmas Tree shop on Sunday), but still it remains the time when all of us can remember what it was like to be young and full of hope that Santa would come. And he always did, until we stopped believing. I still keep a bit of belief deep down in my soul. I remember when I was a little girl, my Mom and Dad would put up the tree, string on the lights, and then I would help decorate.They still use the decorations that all of us, my three brothers and myself, made. I would look at the tree when it was done, and think I had never seen anything so beautiful. I would squint my eyes,and the lights would look like little stars when I did this. On Christmas Eve I would try to stay awake until Santa came, and every year I would fall asleep certain that NEXT year I would make it and see him come down the chimney! Mom always had an open house party the week before Christmas. I was allowed to stay awake late that night, and helping her get things ready and serve trays around made me feel so grown up. I would always have a pretty new dress to wear, and I felt like a princess. I even snuck a sip of the spiked eggnog one year, and decided that grown ups were crazy for liking that stuff! We would also put lights on the outside tree, and I would pray every night for snow, because there is nothing quite like lights on an outside tree when there's snow on the ground.
Now I have my own little girl, and I hope to start traditions with her, so that she too can become a grown up with a little bit of belief still in her soul.
When things get hectic and it seems like you will NEVER get all that shopping done, and when work seems overwhelming on top of all the other things you have to do this time of year, try to remember what it was like when you were a kid. It really helps.
Anyone out there with holiday memories to share? I'd love to hear them!!!
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
A Day In The Life
My day
Wake up at 6, and wonder what the hell I am doing awake at such an ungodly hour.
Stumble to livingroom, see roomie is up, and has been up longer than me.
Stare numbly at the tv wishing it could make coffee.
Princess gets up at 7, roomie leaves with Princess hugs and kisses, Princess cuddles with her comatose mom.
Get onto puter as Princess watches Mickeys Twice Upon a Christmas for the millionth time, grumble because blogger won't let me post!
Read some blogs, comment, realise it's now 8:33 and I still haven't given Princess a bath, nor gotten the car de-iced.
Give Princess the shortest bath in history, stuff some food in her, get myself ready in record time, start car, realise I can only warm it up for about 5 minutes, scrape ice off windows so I can see, pack Princess in car and off we go.
Get on highway, realise that huge sheets of ice are falling off my car, wish I had a bull horn so I could yell in it "I am so sorry people, I'm a loser!"
Drop Princess off at daycare, call work and tell them I'll be about 20 minutes late, be informed my first two clients are already there.
FINALLY get to work, apologise to my clients for being late, do their hair, and end up a half hour ahead of myself...go figure.
Get informed that my boss' closing on his house is today and I have to do a client of his at 3:15, a full hilight on thick hair, I leave at 5:00, the service takes 2 1/2 hours, anyone see a problem with this???
Call Roomie, see if she can pick up Princess from daycare, she says yes (woo hoo roomie!!!!) and tell boss yep I can do the client, but just this once. I work two late nights as it is, and that's too many nights away from Princess.
Client gets there, and informs me she wants a total color transformation on her hair, a 3 plus hours service. REALLY glad Roomie is the nice person she is!! Agree to do hair, when boss gets back tell him about the change and tell him he'll have to do her haircut as I must leave after doing the color.
Finally leave at 6:00, get into car, and realise I have no heat. It's about 40 degrees. And raining. I am cold and wet, and not warming up.
Get home, and have roomies wonderful linguine with clam sauce (again woo hoo roomie!!!) watch Mickeys Once Upon a Christmas ( we both told Princess no to her request for Mickeys Twice Upon a Christmas, seriously folks I could go insane watching that movie again!) Read Princess a book, arrange to have a friend of Princess' Mom take Princess and her friend to a Birthday party on the 18th, I work on saturdays (grumble), get Princess in bed.
It is now 8:44, Princess is not asleep yet, but I am finally able to blog yay!!! She should be asleep soon, and that, my friends, is that. I think I'll collapse now!
Saturday, December 04, 2004
Gotta love those words!
Today while I was at work, Princess and Oliquig went to Oliquig's mom's house, to spend some time together, and also to decorate her Christmas tree. I got to the house late this afternoon, and not all the decorating was done as both Princess and Oliquigs mom took a long nap. So when I got there, they were just starting to decorate the tree, the lights were already on. Princess said " I want to hang the ormanents!!" I love that word, ormanents :-) As much as I want Princess to have a full and correct vocabulary, I just love the words she comes out with! There aren't too many of them left, she's getting older and has been very verbal for a long time now. So I cherish the words she does say, knowing all too well that this is a fleeting thing.
Friday, December 03, 2004
A Brief View of My Future Life!!
So this morning started a bit rough, Oliquig left for work before Princess got up, so there were many tears and "I didn't get hugs and kisses!". I told her we would call Oliquig later. All seemed well. Then I went to take a shower, still all was well....Then, 10 minutes before we were to leave, she told me she wanted to watch "Mickeys Twice Upon a Christmas", a cute kids dvd but cmon, I have watched it WAY too many times in the past few weeks!! However, had there been time, I would have let her watch it again, hey Christmas only comes once a year. I told her no because we were going to leave in a few minutes, well obviously THAT was not what she wanted to hear, as she dramatically cried, then ran to her room and slammed the door shut! I yelled "Open that door!" She, of course, yelled NO!! So I went to her room to open her door, SHE HAD LOCKED IT!!! I was so mad, I yelled "you unlock this door this instant!" She again screamed NO!! I said " Unlock this door or there will be no TV for the rest or your life AND there will be no door!" Finally, she unlocked it, but didn't open it. I opened it and told her that for this behavior, tonite she does NOT get to watch her show, that what she did was unnacceptable. SHE'S 3 PEOPLE!!! I am in SO much trouble for when she is a teenager, I can see my future, and it aint pretty! Thank god she's cute and knows how to melt my heart, or I'd be saying anyone want to adopt her when she's a teenager?? As it is, I guess I'll keep her, as much as I hate to admit it, she comes by her dramatics quite naturally....what did our mothers say about a mothers curse????
Thursday, December 02, 2004
I need help here
I work in a salon as a hair colorist, and I get to know my clients very well as they are there for two or more hours with me at a time. I've been doing this one young womans hair, let's call her Sue. (Not her real name, and not very original but hey its the best my mind can think of.) She isn't the most assertive of women, but she's very nice. 6 months ago she started dating this man, and when she did at first I was so happy for her, as she deserved a nice man. Well, he isn't a nice man. First little things clued me in...she told me a month into her relationship that "Al" (also not his real name) farbade her (yes she used the word forbade!!!) to do anything to her hair but blonde hi-lights. She is usually blonde in summer, and chestnut red in winter. OK I thought, I guess he really likes her blonde. Then she started changing the way she dressed, gone were the funky skirts and tops, and now she dresses very conservatively. She says Al doesn't like it when men look at her. I was getting alarmed. Then one day she came in all stressed, she had forgotten to pick up Al's dry cleaning, he was gonna be really mad at her. At this time I asked her if he was abusing her. She said oh no, he would never hit me! Then just today, I met him.
Before I go on, I need to tell you about my first marriage. OK let me tell you about my second marriage too, the second was a nice man, not exciting, not demanding, not anything in particular, and not right for me, but he was safe. Why you may ask did I marry him? Because of the first husband. He was a nightmare. He seemed ok at first, but he controlled my every thought movement and whim. He used to wake my up in the middle of the night to play mind games on me, because you can cause more damage on a sleep deprived person. I have always been a woman of zaftig proportions, he told me that I had to stay with him because no other man would ever want me. A second marriage and countless dates plus a child since then has changed my mind about that, but at the time I believed him. He had a look in his eye that said "beware"...I had to try to guess his moods when he came home, and if I guessed wrong, well he never hit me, but there is more abuse out there than just physical. I got out of the marriage after 4 years, with the help of friends and family. I was...damaged. I needed years of therapy before I could look a man in the eye. Hence the second safe marriage. Today I am the woman I always should have been.
Now back to Sue and Al. He has THE SAME LOOK IN HIS EYE!!! He scares me, because I know what he's capable of. Now the need for help....how do I tell her to back away??? How do I stop her from becoming damaged??? I just do her hair, should I even care???? But how can I NOT say anything????
Enough of that!!
A new day, no more rain, still no sleep as Little Man upstairs still woke up and cried last night, but I have a whole new attitude! Thankyou Rick, Lauren, Bad Penguin, and Ro for your sympathy, funny how people you have never met in real life seem to become friends in so short a time! Yesterday at work blogging came up, as one my my clients reads blogs. She wondered why it was so popular. I asked her why she read them, she said that it was interesting to see bits of peoples lives, however briefly. I told her, that is exactly what makes it so popular.
We all get caught up in our day to day lives, and sometimes it helps to put our thoughts in writing and send it out over the vast internet, to be caught up in other peoples nets as they surf. This is definately a two way street, because we too catch other peoples castings, and in turn we all become richer. When you read about peoples joys and triumphs, you feel joyous and triumphant too. And when sadness and tragedy strikes, there is a whole network of people who send you their thoughts, prayers and well wishes. This is a win-win situation here.
Why, you may ask, does one day of the blahs make me so introspective? Why not? Isn't this what a blog is for? I'm sure later on I'll have more funny anecdotes about my life, but for now, let me just say blogging is a wonderful community, and what for me started as a lark and a whim has now become something I look forward to as much as I look forward to other neat things in my day.
Wednesday, December 01, 2004
Blahs
It's cold, rainy and very windy today. My upstairs neighbors son has been waking up two nights in a row screaming bloody murder, he's only 19 months, and is getting molars as well as having somewhat of a stomache bug. I feel for him, but this has caused me to have little sleep. Thanksgiving rush is over, and I still have so much Christmas shopping to do. As you can see, I have a case of the blahs :-( I wish I could just crawl back into bed, but I have to go to work. OK enough self pity. This too shall pass....there is a light at the end of the tunnel....every cloud has a silver lining....yadda yadda yadda!!! Ever notice how trite those things sound? Ah well. I still love Princess, and thankfully, she seems to be out of the screaming and testing mood she has been in lately, at least for now. Despite what I said about going to work I do love what I do, how many people can say that (usually) they actually LIKE going to work? My cats have the right idea today, they're both sound asleep. Ever notice that you truly have nothing to say when you have the blahs? So for now I go, until I can be my usual upbeat witty self again.